Today my smart and delightful dear friend Lamisha Serf-Walls from Life Once Dreamt has written a guest post about how to deal with the clutter you can't see.
The Clutter You Can’t See
You’ve got clutter.
You walk by it every day and the feeling of actually doing the work to clear it out feels overwhelming, emotional, and maybe even scary.
At some point you forget it’s there. You turn a blind eye to all the stuff, as it becomes part of your normal life. You intuitively step over the piles, shimmy through the spaces, and strategically stack your papers with a steady hand to avoid the avalanche of stuff that could topple at any given moment.
It’s uncomfortable, but you deal with it because it’s easier than actually dealing with it and it’s all you’ve ever known. Until one day the ‘normal’ reaches a new level of chaos and you just can’t take it anymore.
You are tired of ignoring it, making excuses, and you’re ready for change.
You know it’s time to finally take the leap to tame the clutter and embrace the calm that you’ve always wanted and Lisa comes in to save the day. Her laser focus & gentle spirit helps you to easily clear out your space so you can enjoy the peace & tranquility you didn’t know you were missing.
Finally you can breathe easy. Finally you can do all those things you’ve always wanted to do. Finally you are free!
But what about the stuff you can’t see?
What about the invisible clutter that you’re holding on to?
Each and every one of us has thoughts & beliefs that have been cluttering our minds for years. And just like the stuff we often ignore, our thoughts & beliefs are left untouched. We accept them as part of who we are and never once question their validity.
But holding onto those thoughts & beliefs limits you. It limits what you do and how much you can expand. Much like the physical clutter, it takes up space that could be used for something you have always wanted in your life.
The invisible clutter is dangerous, it’s draining, and it keeps you stuck exactly where you are. It keeps you believing you aren’t good enough or smart enough or talented enough to do all those amazing things you have always wanted to do.
It reminds you of all the reasons you can’t live the life of your dreams and how you are different from all of the people that do by saying things like..
“You’re a fraud.”
“You weren’t meant to succeed.”
“You were never good with money.”
Your mind clutter lies to you and it causes you to hide behind the BS that has held you back for years.
Based on the reality of your past it convinces you that you can never lose the weight, write the book, experience the love or have the career of your dreams. It replays the failures and the missed opportunities over in your mind under the guise that it is keeping you safe from further disappointment when what it’s really doing is keeping you playing small.
And what makes the invisible clutter even more dangerous is the fact that you are likely too close to see what thought or belief is holding you back. Just like the physical clutter that you eventually turn a blind eye to, your thoughts become part of your mental landscape that when left untouched can wreak havoc on your life & aspirations.
When you clear the clutter you open the space for new opportunities & endless possibilities to bring you the freedom, joy, and adventure you never knew you were missing. And for some it all starts with asking for help.
So my question to you is this:
When was the last time you did a bit of mental de-cluttering & what thoughts/beliefs are you ready to toss in the garbage?
Let’s clear the mental clutter so you can move on with your brilliant life!
Lamisha Serf-Walls is a life coach for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held-back and frustrated in how to make that happen. Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free flowing, lovers of life who live a life of freedom with ease and inspire others to do the same. You can learn more about Lamisha and what she offers by visiting her Online, on Facebook, or Twitter.